Hold OnNo contact tracker
Count every day you hold on.
Hold On counts the days since you last reached out and gives you a calm pause for the moment you want to text them. A slip never erases the days you already held.
The counter is free. One optional one-time upgrade, no subscription. No account.
Coming soon to iPhone and Android.
One number, one steady light.
No questionnaire before the counter, no chatbot, no coach. Say when you last reached out and it starts counting.
Every held day counts
Hours at the start, then days. Every full day without contact is credited and stays credited: your longest run and your total sit right under the number.
Pause before you text
Tap "I want to reach out" and a slow sea rises and falls while you breathe normally. Nothing to decide this minute. Your own reasons, if you saved some.
A slip doesn't erase your days
Practical contact (kids, money, logistics) keeps your count. Otherwise start again or pause. Undo within 10 minutes; correct any mistake later.
When they reach out
Log it and pause before deciding whether to reply. Your count only changes if you say you replied.
Never sent
Write notes, or the message you want to send, and keep it here. Unsent pages say "This app never sends this."
Private by design
Optional Face ID or fingerprint lock. Discreet notifications ("Take a moment."). Widgets show a number and nothing else.
Made for the middle of the night.
Calm, warm and adult. Dark by default when your phone is.
Free where it matters.
The counter, the pause, your writing, history, the lock, export and the basic widgets are never behind a paywall. Pro is a small one-time upgrade for looks and longer summaries.
Free
Everything you need, no time limit.
- The counter, with longest run and total held days
- The pause screen and "They reached out"
- Notes and unsent messages, reasons, 20 prompts
- Full history with undo and corrections
- Face ID or fingerprint lock, export and import
- Small widget (plus Lock Screen inline and circular on iPhone)
- 1 reminder, 1 share card style
Pro One-time
Pay once. No subscription. Per store (App Store or Google Play).
- Medium widget and 3 widget styles (plus a rectangular Lock Screen widget on iPhone)
- 4 more share card styles, without the Hold On mark
- Month and quarter summaries in History
- Up to 3 reminders
- 2 more accent colours
Your words stay on your phone.
No account and no server of ours. Here is exactly what leaves the device, and what never does.
Sent (anonymous)
- Usage events without content, for example "app opened", "paywall viewed", "reminder added", "widget installed"
- Crash reports (stack trace, device model, OS version)
- A random install id, not linked to you
Never sent
- Your notes, unsent messages and reasons
- When you reached out, held on or were contacted
- Any time, date or duration, and the nickname
Your phone's own backup (iCloud or Google) includes the app's data, so a new phone can bring your history along. No ads, no tracking across apps. Full privacy policy.
Support
Questions, a bug, or a restore that didn't work? Email holdon@benbasha.com (holdon@benbasha.com). Include your phone model and the app version from Me.
Hold On is a self-help tool, not medical or mental-health care. If you need to talk to someone now, findahelpline.com lists free, confidential helplines in your country. If you're in danger, call your local emergency number.